Friday, April 24, 2015

Alpha Mail: divorce and disclosure

TA asks about the right time to tell a woman about his marital history:
 I am a 28yo man who believe in the red pill teachings and have been learning from many bloggers, including Heartiste, Rollo, and you, for a number of years. I have come across your post "No disclosure means divorce" the other day. You mention that, "young men should start expressing a firm No Disclosure Means Divorce policy, as this… permits men to make informed decision with regards to whom they will or will not marry." I have a similar scenario, but in reverse, and I want to seek for your advice.

I made the biggest mistake of getting married when I was 25yo only to find out that my "wife" cheated on me shortly after our marriage. Needless to say, I separated from her immediately and am in the process of filing a divorce. Fast forward to now, I am ready to go into a more serious relationship. I am wondering if I ever find a woman that is worthy of my time investment and with whom I see a future, when I should disclose my past history of marriage and divorce to her. And how would you suggest me disclosing without jeopardizing the relationship?
I think the right time is on the first date. I don't think it is necessary to go into details concerning precisely why the marriage failed; a light-hearted statement like "she failed to understand the concept that marriage entails the end of one's casual dating life" will suffice.

Women aren't like men. They don't view divorce as the turnoff that men do. Quite to the contrary, they see it as evidence that a man is "the marrying kind", so long as he isn't wounded and bitter about it. The longer TA fails to disclose his divorce, the more likely it is that the woman will be troubled by it when she finally learns about it. The less concerned about it he appears, the less interested and bothered by it she will be.

If asked about it, TA should simply shrug, give a wry smile, and say: "Oh, she was young and silly. It was hardly the end of the world. Anyway, that was a long time ago, so what about you? Any secret marriages into a polygamous Mormon household or an Arab harem?"

The one thing to absolutely avoid is the temptation to cry on the new woman's shoulder and tell her what a wounded bird he is and how he'll never be able to trust again. Women are attracted to rocks, not wounded birds.

Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Benevolent sexism

Is the very WORST kind of sexism. Which is to say, unsexy sexism:
If you don’t know about “benevolent sexism” then you have probably been guilty of it on a regular basis without even knowing it. Since gamers are apparently among the most sexist of all sexists, it would not be surprising if every single man who plays video games has committed these insidious acts which supposedly “justify women’s subordinate status to men”. What are some of these horrible acts that when committed condemn men to contemptible sexist status? From the recent Northeastern University study “Nonverbal and Verbal Expressions of Men’s Sexism in Mixed-Gender Interactions“:

    During the trivia game, men with more benevolent sexism were perceived to be more patient overall when waiting for the woman to answer the trivia questions.

Being patient with a woman is a sign of sexism. Got it.

    …opening a car door for a woman may reflect simple politeness that would be extended to anyone; however, it could also reflect benevolent sexist attitudes if the man does it because of his assumption that men are more competent than women and that women should be pampered or protected by men, and his action may, in his subjective opinion, be positive and not at all sexist in the traditional sense

Opening doors for women is sexist. Never again.

    …men’s benevolent sexism predicted more smiling

Yes, apparently smiling at a woman is also sexist.

    …benevolent sexism is attractive ideologically for women because they may find it difficult to resist the allure of sexism in such a form. After all, benevolent sexist men hold women in high regards and are willing to sacrifice themselves to protect and save women

A man who is willing to give his life for a woman is sexist? So, men being willing to sacrifice their very lives to protect women is actually bad for women.
Benevolent sexism may be attractive ideologically, but it is not attractive sexually. Those with the Game-educated eyes to see will understand that this is simply yet another screed imploring men to BE MORE ALPHA.

Monday, April 20, 2015

Sigma music

If you can't figure out how this Bloodhound Gang song is eminently Sigma, well, the concept is simply going to elude you. Remember, Sigmas are even more contemptuous of Gammas than Alphas or Deltas.

I know my haikus are freaking intense
but even the words I made up to sound French
don't express my feelings for your toilet parts.
I would show up for our pottery class
dressed like a pirate with John Water's mustache
On a unicorn that shits your name in stars.

In case the dripping contempt for Gamma romanticism escapes you, the title of the song should make it clear: "Screwing You on the Beach at Night". And then there is the chorus:

Fucking's cool, but Jimmy's the romantic type.
Loitering on cliffs, thinking about stuff like,
Screwing you on the beach at night.

Being sexual Alphas, Sigmas don't kiss and hug, they fuck and screw. They hate Gamma deception because they see through it and they cannot believe that the Gamma actually expects them to accept his posturings at face value. Being predators, they tend to view the pedestalization and white knighting that is so common to Gammas and Deltas as not only dishonest, but transparently dishonest even when it is not. And as the song suggests, they often have a vulgar streak that most Alphas don't; this may have something to do with their outsider mindset. One way of signifying you do not belong to the group is to offend it.

The video also offers a pretty good indication of the way Sigmas naturally regard Gammas. In the same way that Gammas find it very difficult to believe Alphas and Sigmas are as genuinely confident as they are, Sigmas often find it hard to believe Gammas are not mentally retarded or playing dumb. The quivering lip scene sums it all up in a nutshell. I have to admit, it has taken me a long time and a fair amount of patient explanation to even begin to grasp Gamma thought processes, and if I'm not focused on being sympathetic, my instinctive inclination when talking to a Gamma is to shake him and shout "what the fuck is wrong with you?"

Saturday, April 18, 2015

It starts young

In fairness, if you consider how they have been raised and taught to relate with other people, it's a testimony to the intrinsic decency of the average pretty woman that she doesn't expect people to be skinned alive if they annoy her in any way:
Eight-year-old Ella Neumark said Saturday that in recent weeks she has become increasingly aware of how her adorable physical characteristics make her superior to unattractive girls.

Ella told reporters she has only lately begun to appreciate how her wide, expressive eyes, shiny blond hair, and flawlessly straight teeth cause her to be a far more worthy human being than her less appealing peers.

"I never really noticed it before, but my prettiness makes me better than every girl who isn't as pretty as me," Ella said. "The face I have means I deserve more attention than anyone whose face isn't as good."

"Mrs. Hothan calls on me all the time in class because my eyes, nose, and mouth are a certain way, and that's why she also gives me more time to answer questions," Ella continued. "She likes to look at me, so she's nice to me. Other girls don't get treated as nice because they aren't nearly as good to look at. That's so amazing."

Ella's growing recognition that her cuteness endows her with intrinsically greater value than girls who are overweight or possess thick eyebrows has reportedly caused her to see her friendships differently. The third-grader said she has begun to fully understand that she can in fact exploit her appearance to obtain benefits she believes she is entitled to.
Want to know why pretty women can be such unconscionable bitches at times? Look yourself in the mirror, Mr. White Knight Pedestal.

Friday, April 17, 2015

Feminism: the incoherent ideology

Fred Reed observes as much:
At Vassar some ditzbunny got blitzed, got laid, and a year later decided that she had been sexually assaulted. I guess she didn’t notice it at the time. You have to be alert to know when you have been raped. It can happen when you are distracted, maybe working on your laundry list, and you don’t find out about it for a while.

Congruent with the national fantasy that college girls don’t know about sex or the effects of beer, a conventionally imbecilic judge found the guy guilty. No surprise here. (“What part of “yes” don’t you understand, your honor?”)

But check out the astonishing email she wrote to the offender:

“I’m really sorry I led you on last night I should have known better then [sic] to let my self [sic] drink yet, I really don’t want this to effect [sic] our team dynamic or friendship. I don’t think any less of you at all I had a wonderful time last night I’m just too close to my previous relationship to be in one right now.”

Doesn’t sound very raped to me, but what do I know? I love her grammar. The child is semiliterate. I couldn’t have gotten away with such stuff in the sixth grade. Vassar? The national fingers drop. Drop, drop, drop they drop.

Next, in Stars and Stripes, we find that American Special Operations troops do not believe that women can succeed in their death-in-the-bushes outfits. The shame. How can they believe that women, who obviously can’t do certain things, obviously can’t do the things they obviously can’t do? This discriminatory position has no support at all, other than common sense, observation, and experience.

You see: Women, imperiled by frat parties, want to be SEALs. The only conclusion possible is that women are crazy.
The amazing thing is that you can still find men and women who think feminism is a good thing, not an incoherent ideology leading to an inevitable national collapse.

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

The unforeseeable future

Is apparently about 16 years:
We all wish we could return to the days when we were in our prime. When men did not look straight through us in restaurants, their reptilian brains discounting us as unworthy of note. When we were not just mothers and wives — invisible to all but our loved ones....

This is why women — especially those of my age — are so desperate to do everything to halt the rot. And why they — we — are so vulnerable to the siren call of the plastic surgeon’s knife.

When I was in my early 30s and liked what I saw in the mirror, I vowed that I would never mess with Mother Nature. I would grow old with dignity and grace.

I reneged on that promise several years ago. Not to any great extent — just a bit of help with those pesky frown lines.

But though I haven’t quite booked my first facelift, I’m not discounting the possibility either.

Because, you see, growing old is a bit like giving birth. People tell you how awful it is and you can look at pictures and read about it in books. But you never really appreciate quite how hard it is until it actually happens to you.

At which time you’d do almost anything to make it stop.
Now, consider how young women are making decisions that will have a significant impact on their ability to marry and have children with the same sort of self-insight.

What are the chances that the average woman of 34 is going to feel the same way about her perspective at 18 that the 48-year old Sarah Vine does about her 32-year old self?

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Music as socio-sexual rank

Yesterday I talked about Alpha music. Now let's look at another very popular form of music, which is Gamma music. My impression, and it is little more than that, is that Gamma music is particularly popular with women because the Gamma mindset is most similar to the female one.

What is Gamma music? Well, I was driving in the car with a teenage boy the other day, thereby introducing him to some music that was hitherto unknown to him, and one band he rather liked nevertheless struck him as unappealing in one way. "Why is this guy always whining?" he asked.

One guess as to what band it was? Anyhow, my nominee for the most Gamma band of all time are responsible for this song:

I would say I'm sorry
If I thought that it would change your mind
But I know that this time
I've said too much
Been too unkind

Talks too much. Thinks too much. Calculated actions.

I try to laugh about it
Cover it all up with lies
I try and
Laugh about it
Hiding the tears in my eyes
'cause boys don't cry

Fake laughing, dishonest public postures, lies and more fake laughing, and reduced to tears by a breakup. Any doubts about what we're dealing with here? On a more subtle note, mark the reference to "boys" versus the Maroon 5 lyrics in the fake Gamma song yesterday.

I gotta be a man
There ain't no other way

Gammas are very uncomfortable with referring to themselves as men. It's a reliable tell. In fact, they can hardly say the words "manly" or "masculine" without sarcasm.

I would break down at your feet
And beg forgiveness
Plead with you
But I know that
It's too late
And now there's nothing I can do

And they wonder why women aren't attracted to them. And notice that the Gamma is helpless. Agency belongs to the woman, not to him. This is directly contra the Alpha perspective, where the mere act of meeting his eyes is sufficient to confer ownership of the woman.

I would tell you
That I loved you
If I thought that you would stay
But I know that it's no use
That you've already
Gone away

Gammas are manipulative. This is the second time he says his actions are guided by her expected responses. He can't act in his own right, but only in terms of her anticipated actions.

Misjudged your limits
Pushed you too far
Took you for granted
I thought that you needed me more
Now I would do most anything
To get you back by my side
But I just
Keep on laughing
Hiding the tears in my eyes

This is just groveling, or rather, applied pedestalization. She walked away, most likely in disgust, so he's assuming it was something he did, rather than something he wasn't. The last bridge is the most appalling; despite being willing to do almost anything to get her back, the one thing he won't do is be honest about his feelings because he's not guaranteed to get her back.

This song, by The Cure, of course, is a brilliant demonstration of the Gamma mind, demonstrating Gamma fear, Gamma pride, and above all, the core Gamma trait, Gamma dishonesty.